Sustaining Positive Environment Around

2020 is an year of tremendous troubles, challenges and sickness. Adverse conditions may result into psychological and mental illness like depression, hypertension or stress and also social isolation accompanied with so called social distancing.

I had been listening to and reading work of experts and also gone through and observed some very fine key holes which existed in real case studies and thus based on data collected, I have been able to prepare a practical guide to overcome such extremities and protect the life and future of your own self and bring stability in the lives of your closed ones.

1. Communicate and Express yourself out

In such a condition, it is important to communicate and express yourself out as you already know and obviously every second person is talking about the same. You would definitely tell me that my or for that matter no expert's suggestions are required to know it. But I have to share or rather discuss somethings more to it.  

It is, I know, easy to say but difficult to practice. It is great idea for extroverts who can easily talk but what about people with personality traits close to being introvert. In fact according to expert studies, it might surprise you to know that many individuals who commit suicide due to depressive tendencies were really good and comfortable when they talked, highly expressive and easy going. Then what makes them arrive at such cruel decisions?

As an initiative to bring this closer to reality, here I list out a few steps and dos don'ts to bring the communication and expression into practice.

(a) Make two lists of people you know

Make one list of 5 people who are closest to you and can be trusted upon to talk anything. If choosing them is a problem, mind it, you always free comfortable in talking to those who do not judge you for what you say, do not gossip at your back and most importantly take you towards positivity. 

But sometimes when the negative mode of our body gets on, vibes of sorrow starts running down the body, destructive thoughts overtake constructivism within our mind. The environment around us becomes serene to such extent that talking to closest ones is also not able to resolve the issues messed up inside. This is because these people tend to play the role of saints who starts preaching right and wrong whereas what is required at that particular time is discussion and not lectures. Here comes in the second list. Keep another list of 5 people who come next in line. In such situations, talking to people who come in your second list works better. It is because they become good listeners and source of genuine guidance. 

(b) Write down your thoughts

If you find it difficult to talk, then begin with writing down. Now come on do not take it wrong, I am absolutely not talking about turning into an emotional poet. I am also not exactly talking about maintaining personal diary. But atleast when you analyze that something is troubling you hard inside, write it down. Practice what can you say and how can you say and then find someone whom you can say.

(c) Stay in touch with closed ones

When you start feeling alone, start reminding yourself that you are not, no one can ever be. Yes, that's the truth. No one can ever be alone, we all have people around us who are truly our own but we are forced by the negativity around to forget this. So keep reminding yourself. Take out old albums, try remembering and penning down good times you spent with them together. This will bring you to comfort, then call them, even if you hesitate to talk about your own problems with them, still call them, just to give them a message that you still remember them. Chat with them about good things you did together and good time you spent together.

Gradually develop a rapport and then you will find they miss you equally.

(d) Use social media platforms

Use social media to stay connected. Make it a habit to post about yours and your family's well being in family and friends' groups everyday. And ofcourse you initiate the drive to get the same from all members. But remember, do not let it be just a habit, make sure you express your true feelings.

2. Reprogramming of mind

I recently heard an expert psychologist talking about it in context to the mindset we possess about current scenario covered with corona virus attack.

There are certain moments when we are surrounded with negativity, and we need to understand that in such situations, humans tend to push themselves towards more negative thoughts. It kind of forms a chain wherein negative pulls negative and thus we need to drill and practice pushing ourselves towards positivity. The devil sub conscious tries to overpower godly conscious. Here, we need to bring our inner conscious forward to console ourselves and convince our mind to move and urge for strong positive within us again.

3. Understanding your own symptoms

The negative state of mind I have mentioned above is not very silent and gradually such sorrow state of mind is expressed through destructive acts. The extent of this destruction may vary from person to person depending upon both intensity of suffering and personality of sufferer. From excessively enhanced aggression and extreme frustration emerge these signs of this destruction which are, in actuality, symptoms of some psychological problem.

4. Seeking expert advise

This is most important! Whom are you following, who are the ones who are advising you? Are they good enough to justify that job? When you are going through your tough time, there are many who will come to your rescue as they think so. But the hard truth is most of them, rather I would say almost all of them are only enhancing your problems. You need to make sure that people with whom you are discussing your problems the most, are not the worst to advise you. Because trust me, as per expert data, a major percentage in present scenario are depressed themselves. And in no way it is possible for a bottle of kerosene to extinguish fire. The fire inside you needs some carbon dioxide in the form of positive spirit and only some intellectuals and experts who have the potential to deal with your problem can act as a fire extinguisher.

5. Do not hesitate to seek medical aid

As I explained above, this one again requires some reconditioning of mind. Though its a hypocrisy in the world we are part of that admitting need of help for any or all kind of psychological problems are considered under one umbrella called mentalhood and furthermore, all mentalhoods are violent and harmful for people around.

But you need to understand that you can't change such narrow mindsets in a single day and it will actually be foolish to spoil your own life for such mindless people. 

So its better to accept and seek appropriate help for the same.

At the end, I would only like to suggest that tough times come and go, nothing stays forever. Things do change and they change for good. Be patient, keep trust in the power of almighty and things will be fine.