A Career Mother

Now that might put you in a confusion about whether that is intentional or I have used that heading by mistake. But let me tell you that it is very much a thought of my own brain- whether right or wrong is your own perception.

A career woman is something you very often hear about but my experience into motherhood has essentially taught me that being a woman is a much simpler journey than being a mother.

The life of a mother is complicated enough to handle a career- this is what most people think even today. I tried hard to prove it wrong and am still trying so. On my journey to pursue career and achieve my aspirations while balancing it with being a perfectionist mother, I often face a lot of ups and downs. I have been surrounded by people who judge me for either not having a career oriented attitude or for not being considerate enough towards my family and my child.

Eventually I realize that I share a path many have lived through and all those great ladies end up either being unsatisfied career woman or unsatisfied perfect housewife- the common being unsatisfaction. This is what scares me and annoys me most because if you ask me they never deserved this- they too needed to be happily satisfied.

But why this happens to them? What makes their journey so hard and convoluted? Why they are ultimately compelled to quit from one of their roles? Have you ever introspected? If you will do it, you will understand the cause of their failure to gain satisfaction in both the roles they wanted to pursue. And the major one is 'JUDGEMENT' which crowds around them make and force their own opinions over the heads of these wonderful ladies trying out there tough. Their lives remain tangled with these thoughts which mostly emerge out of their lack of freedom to take decisions for themselves. The important point to be noted here is that these people who keep enforcing their misleading suggestions not only include men or illiterates but highly educated women around are also a big part of this group.

Her own family is the one who always guide her for being excellent in her career while her husband along with in laws often guide her towards being a perfect family manager. The times have changed but this only leads to a role reversal between both parties. The people who claim to be worried about both her womanhood and motherhood are confused themselves as one of both thoughts always conquers their mind.

Women who are doing better in their careers will always pretend to be smarter even if she was once at a better place in her life. On the other hand, women who are better home makers will rarely consider her dual role while advising her any solutions.

Someone to consider both her roles simultaneously and to see her as both a woman and a mother at the same time are missing. Here is where she loses the challenges. Worried about the perceptions of others who literally are not others, she miss the requisite brainstorming for right decision making at times and thus takes a wrong move, though not deliberately, to keep someone happy.

The highlight of all the emotional point of view is that recognize the struggles of such women, appreciate them and just let them be. Let them make a decision as they will be affected most by what they do. Do not judge them and in fact be a support system in their hard driven struggle. Try to reflect on her decisions and admire her efforts to drive her double steering vehicle.

Believe in women empowerment in it's TRUE sense.

A happy mother is capable of making everything around extremely happy.

Thank you!